Emerald here today attended a bi-annual event at Stanford Graduate School of Business for women leaders who are looking to accelerate our careers. Sunny and warm, the pasta lunch served us under a patio umbrella on a grassy lawn. I was sitting in a table of 7 women. Someone suggests for a group photo so I sought out someone to take a photo of us, a camera in my hand. At a table next to us, I saw a person’s head.
[A] Emerald curious:
“Excuse me, sir. Could you take a photo of us please?”
[B] Person turns around:
[A] Emerald suddenly realize that this person I called sir is a she!
“I am sorry, could you please take a photo of us?”
In silence, contemplating whether to correct me by calling her a ma’am. Complex emotion, neither shame nor sorry- ambivalence.
Emerald internal dialogue: ‘Whaa I just didn’t know. How could I not know, this event is for WOMEN only!!’
Emerald internally smiles, laughing at herself and shaking the head with compassion for making mistakes.’
[B] She person:
Gracefully takes the camera and snap snap snap.
Beauty is being able to laugh at yourself for silly behaviors
Beauty is gracefully ignoring other people’s ignorant behaviors
Beauty is boldly going forward asking for what you need and being okay to make mistakes along the way.